Being the outsider can make you feel free or not having to be involved, not belonging. But you remain an outsider, listening to your judgements, reacting rather than responding or reaching out.
You need to feel at home in all situations - from climbing to the top to sitting in silence in a full room. Both bring you closer to self. Life is not safe. It is full of everything - and that's what makes the possibilities endless. Jump in. Get involved. Stop living through the other. Get a life, get dirty, get sexy, just get it.